These instructions are written in the proper sequence as an aid to a facilitator when helping another person cut ties that bind. It is assumed that a rapport has already been established between the facilitator and the person about to cut ties between himself and an authority figure, or someone or something he feels controls him. Since this method differs from many others, in that neither of the egos of the two people controls the session, the first step is for them both to erect between them a triangle of golden light to connect each of them to the Hi C, which is common to both of them and is visualized at the apex of the triangle. The facilitator will verbalize the directions in the order listed below. Erecting the Triangle Visualize or imagine, feel, or think of a golden beam of sunlight connecting us both across the floor and tell me when it is clear to you. This is the baseline of our Triangle, A to B. Visualize a golden beam of light flowing up my spine and out through the top of my head and tell me when it is clear. Imagine another golden beam moving up your spine and out through the top of your head and tell me when you feel it. Project both beams up to meet at the apex of the Triangle to connect each of us to the Hi C at the apex, representing the Higher Consciousness common to both of us. If you wish, ask the Hi C to present Itself to you as a symbol or a personification to make it easier for you to visualize It. Turning Direction of Session Over to the Hi C Let us both give over the direction of this session to the Hi C. I will ask to be given the questions and suggestions to offer you and any other ways to help if you need assistance. You might want to ask for a fulfilling and freeing experience or something along those lines. Ask the Hi C to send down your side of the Triangle relaxing energy. Inhale it and exhale any tension you may feel in any part of you: whether physical, mental, emotional, or any other, for two or three breaths, and ask that this relaxing energy continue to flow through the whole session. Ask the Hi C to send down your side of the Triangle relaxing energy. Inhale it and exhale any tension you may feel in any part of you: whether physical, mental, emotional, or any other, for two or three breaths, and ask that this relaxing energy continue to flow through the whole session. Ask the Hi C to send cleansing energy into you to remove any negative memories, thoughts, feelings, or conditions that you are ready to release. Take two or three breaths and ask for it to continue for the entire time we work. Ask the Hi C for strengthening or re-energizing energy to flow into you as you breathe it in and exhale any weakness you are ready to release, and ask for it to continue for the whole session. We will both breathe in the completely accepting and noncritical love from the Hi C, so that the forthcoming ritual takes place in a force field of this love, which we have all been seeking all our lives, whether we realize it or not. Breathe out any obstacles that prevent you from receiving it. Visualizing Figure Eight and Ties Visualize, remember, or imagine the Figure Eight you have been practicing for two weeks or more with the person or symbol facing you in the other circle opposite your own. Tell me when it is clear. Put yourself in a position where you can see the space between your body and that of (name), for example, either above or to one side. Put yourself in a position where you can see the space between your body and that of (name), for example, either above or to one side. Scan up and down as you ask the Hi C to indicate from what part of your body and to which part of (name's) body are the connecting ties attached. At the same time, observe in your body any tensions, tightness, pain or other sensations that might indicate ties. Let me know when you have identified all the ties and describe them to me. Cutting the Ties Ask the Hi C which tie you should detach from first. What does it remind you of, or what is its texture? Ask to be shown the appropriate method for removing it and any tools you need to accomplish this. Tell me what you have been given as well as whether you should sever it in the middle or at either end, from your body or (name's.) Proceed to remove it in whatever way you are shown and place the tie or its parts in your own circle to be destroyed later. Healing the Area of the Body from which the Ties were Detached Check to determine if any healing is needed on the part of your body from which the tie was removed. If so, place your right hand over that part, if you are right-handed, otherwise use your left hand, with the other hand placed so that the part needing healing is between the two hands. Ask for healing energy to be sent from the Hi C into your hands. Check to see that healing is taking place and ask that it continue until it is completed. Look to see if healing is needed on the part of (name's) body from which you removed the tie. If so, ask for healing energy to flow into your hands from the Hi C. Place your hands with palms together and direct the healing across to (name) and ask that it continue until finished. Proceed as above until all the ties have been removed from both bodies and healing started. Destroying the Ties Ask the Hi C how you should destroy the pile of discarded ties and tell me what you will do with them. Proceed with this destruction and tell me when it is finished, but be sure that all pieces have been destroyed to your satisfaction. Expressing Gratitude In your own words explain to (name) that this ritual will be a mutual gift of freedom to each of you to allow you to express your own selves instead of either being controlled by the other. Tell me when you have done so. In the case of cutting ties from a parent, thank (name) for his or her part in providing you with a human body in which to work out your karma in your daily life. (If other than a parent, proceed to Step 4.) Also thank him or her for anything else for which you are grateful and any learning made possible and let me know when it is done. If other than a parent, thank (name of person) for all you have learned from this relationship. Asking for Forgiveness and Forgiving Ask (name) to forgive you for anything you have ever done to hurt him or her in any way in this life or any other. He does not have to forgive you, but you do need to ask. You may generalize or be specific. Tell me when you have finished. Ask the Hi C to send down your side of the Triangle forgiveness for any harm (name) has caused you in this life or any other. Direct the forgiveness you are receiving from the Hi C across to (name). Again, you may be specific or generalize. Let me know when you have finished. Moving Away Direct (name) to move out of your inner space to free you to be directed only by the Hi C. Send (name) away with your blessing and let me know when he has left. Erase the circle which contained (name) in whatever way is indicated by the Hi C and tell me when it is done. Removing Old Borrowed Attitudes and Ritual Bath You now need to remove and destroy all the attitudes you have borrowed from (name), but which do not express you. These are symbolized by the clothes you see you are wearing in your inner scene. Tell me when you are stripped of everything and make a pile of them, to be destroyed later. You also need to remove any of the more subtle attitudes borrowed from (name), which can be accomplished by taking a ritual bath. Ask the Hi C to show you a body of water in which to take your ritual bath and tell me what it is. It can be an ocean, river, pond, lake, waterfall, your own bath or shower, or any other. Ask for something with which to scrub your entire body to free it from any of the more subtle overlays from your relationship with (name). Take it in with you as you enter the water and really enjoy removing any remaining attitudes that do not belong to you and tell me when you feel completely free. Express your freedom in any way you are shown by the Hi C and let me know when you have done so. Throw yourself into this exercise with as much joy and enthusiasm as you can muster. Ask the Hi C how to destroy the pile of clothes that represent the old attitudes that are no longer necessary and let me know when you have done so. But, be sure you have destroyed every scrap so that they are completely demolished. Finding a Temporary Protective Garment in the Tree You are now vulnerable and need a temporary garment until you discover your own attitudes. You will find it either in the branches or roots of The Tree. So ask the Hi C to show you a tree which will represent your true security symbol, or leaning post, which we all have within us. You do not need to know the name of it. Look in the roots or branches to find your protective garment. As soon as you find it, put it on and pull it around you, tying a belt if there is one. Using the Tree as Your Security Symbol Now face the tree and put your arms around the trunk to greet it, but also to reassure yourself that it is indeed a strong and firm leaning post that can support your weight. Stand or sit with your back about six inches away from the trunk and let yourself fall against it knowing it will support you. Receiving Nourishment from Cosmic Parents Identify with the tree and imagine you are sending down your roots deep into the Mother Earth as the tree does to bring up the nourishment you need from the Cosmic Mother. Breathe in whatever you need and did not necessarily receive from your human mother, such as love and affection, acceptance, compassion and anything else you feel you lacked. Breathe out any anger, resentment, disappointment or any other such emotion connected with your own mother. Reach up as the tree does with its branches and leaves toward the sun, the Cosmic Father and breathe in whatever is being given you from that source of nourishment. Breathe out anything that could prevent you from receiving it. You may specify what you wish to be given, which your own father was unable to give you while you were a child. Now breathe in from both sources with each breath and feel the two streams of nourishment flow throughout your body, bringing about the balance you need between the Yin and Yang forces of the earth and sun. Stay connected in this way, breathing in whatever you are being given and remember to thank the Cosmic parents, which combined form the Hi C. Returning to Conscious Body Come back to conscious awareness of your body. Move it and take over control, by arching your back, moving your head, and stretching your arms and legs. Return fully to the here and now, on (date and place). When your are ready, slowly open your eyes, remembering that it will seem very bright at first. Do not discuss this session for at least three days as you need to retain the energy in it to allow it to be effective. Write a letter to the person from whom you just cut the ties, re­affirming your mutual freedom. The letter should stress the positive effects only. Do not mail or deliver the letter. 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