The Door Mat and the Walker

By JSG, USA

Quite recently I became aware of a pattern in my life that was serving to keep a fear of mine alive and well. It was the two sides of a coin "the door mat" and "the walker."

Through the use of the Triangle and Figure 8, I was able to become conscious of the way this pattern worked in my daily life. In order to feel "connected" with life, my ego often takes the lead and presents this illusion of separation so I would allow family, friends and strangers to "walk all over me."

Through working with the Cutting the Ties Techniques and from the unhappiness this pattern caused, I finally experienced "the last straw." I realized that if I was willing to lay down a door mat, someone would surely want to walk on it. I had to understand how the pattern was serving me, to shift my awareness and realize that the person walking was not to blame. We shared two sides of the "one and same" coin, no better, no worse, just different consequences.

It was revealed to me that once again FEAR was the reason for the doormat--fear that I wouldn't be loved, fear that someone would be angry with me, fear I would lose the people around me. The doormat kept me quite distracted from the Truth. The doormat actually manifested the very fear I wanted to avoid because the pattern separated me from my True Self, my Hi C.

Once understanding this I could now release it and the Figure 8 always releases with Love. With one more pattern dismantled, my Hi C has more space, a clearer path, which provides the strength I need to be in Love and not in fear.

After the cutting, my daughter said, "I don't know you any more." At first I reverted to my old habit of fear and felt rejection. Then I realized she made a wonderful comment because it validated my change from doormat to being able to say "no" to her and that certainly was not someone she knew.

It's funny, but I've never owned a doormat for my front door. Now that I understand its real service I can purchase one!

Using the Figure 8

By K.B.A., age 8

How the Figure 8 works is a piece of cake. Just close your eyes and imagine you and your bully or a person who bothers you a lot and just make an eight around you and your bully. Like this--8--and make a beam going around you and your bully and then you're in the blue circle and your bully is on the other side.

I'll tell you a story when I used the Figure 8. I knew a bully once. It was like magic. One day at recess a big kid named Eric was bothering me and I did nothing to him. So I closed my eyes and I did the Figure 8 on him. So the next morning at recess I saw the kid Eric, he wasn't mean to me any more but he was my friend now. Isn't that like magic?

Using the Maypole

By U.L.H., Germany

My children are 12 and 8 years old. For two years now on our daily way to school, after being stressed, we sing a little song, do the Maypole and ask the Hi C to think through us, to feel though us, to speak through us, to act through us and last but not least to love through us. After that we share the colors we have visualized on the Maypole.

In fact it takes us only four minutes to do this. We forget all our hurry and all our stress. Having done this, we each of us can handle our day in a different quality. The children don't have to do this exercise, they do it by their own free will and it has become an iimportant part of our daily practice.

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